Have you ever been in a relationship with a man where every time conflict comes up you’re pushed farther and farther apart and things just keep getting worse?
And because of this, have you ever become afraid of how a man is going to react to you and your feelings?
To the point where you start “censoring” yourself and holding things in… even though you know it’s important for you both to share how you feel if things are going to work out?
I know I’ve seen more than my fair share of relationships where something was just “off” with how the couple communicated.
And instead of talking and sharing in a way that builds trust and encourages listening and understanding, each conversation ends up ADDING TENSION and creates MORE DISTANCE.
And what can be even more confusing is that these kinds of relationships often have a lot of “chemistry”… but as you might know, this doesn’t mean there’s a deeper emotional connection that’s being built.
If you get what I’m talking about, then you know what it’s like to have an amazing “connection” with someone on several levels… but ALSO to feel like it can be IMPOSSIBLE to communicate and be heard in your relationship.
If you’ve had a relationship like this in your life, or you’re in one, then you probably realize that relationships like this don’t tend to LAST.
Or at the very least, they are VERY UNSTABLE and UNCERTAIN – making both people feel burnt out and frustrated.
The truth is disagreements and conflicts are a fact of life. But most women and men don’t know how to approach these “speed bumps” in a productive, compassionate, honest, healthy way that will keep a long term relationship alive and thriving.
So then what happens?
Resentment builds, your partner grows distant, and the loving, fun, effortless affection that used to be there so often disappears, and you’re left with a lot of “work” just to try and have a partner.
And forget about intimacy, deep emotional connection and passion.
I’ll talk to you again soon… and best of luck in life and love!
Your Friend,
Christian Carter